Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.
Building a positive mindset isn’t the easiest of tasks. It requires a lot of hard work and dedication to a higher cause – your ultimate happiness. Being a positive person in a world filled with so much negativity and hatred is a gigantic task to embark on, but it is possible and I’m getting better and better at it by the day.
Why reflect on the bad when you can think of the happiness that tomorrow may bring? Why dwell on halcyon days that you miss when next week you can plan something amazing and cheerful? I guess what I’m trying to say is this – why should you waste your time making yourself feel down in the dumps when you can simply live your life and be as positive and happy as is possible?
I’m not saying you’ll be able to be positive at all times because, well, life can mistreat us sometimes and in those times of being hard done by it can be difficult to maintain a positive attitude. But what you can do is allow yourself a limited time to be negative before you bounce right back again. Allow yourself no more than a couple of days to wallow in your own self pity before you begin with the positive energy again. After those couple of days, question yourself about why things went the way they did and ask yourself – how could something good come from this? Life is all about learning lessons from mistakes we or others may have made, and I always tell myself to never make the same mistake twice. When we forbid ourselves from relapsing into past mistakes, we instantly become better as people. Sure, you may make new mistakes, but continue to learn from them and ultimately grow yourself.
Being positive is also about the way we think, and that’s the challenging part. Apps such as ThinkUp can help us in building those reinforcing messages in our minds and can assist us in being more positive. For instance, rather than ranting on about how badly you’ve been treated by someone, thank them for the experience and the memories and the ultimate chance to better yourself as a person. Rather than dwelling on the past and thinking about how worthless you are, thank the past for teaching you valuable life lessons and giving you the chance to develop and grow stronger.
Build that positive mindset by getting out in the world and making happy memories. Put yourself out there and meet new people. Go on that date. Go for that run. Go to the movies and indulge in some me time. Being positive isn’t just about spending time with other’s however, it’s also about enjoying the smaller things and enjoying the time to yourself without getting into a bad state of loneliness and depression. You can build memories alone, but having other people by your side will almost always be seen as a bonus.
You are your own greatest friend, and never forget that. You can only truly depend on yourself, but don’t let that put you off from making new friends and meeting new potential partners. Look out for yourself in a positive way that gives you energy, but also be kind and generous to others – no matter what they may have done to harm you and your wellbeing.
Don’t let anyone push you around and be a tough cookie, but be positive at the same time as opposed to being a pessimist. Remind yourself that not everyone is out to get you, and their are good people out there – you just need to find them.